Boring Sex and the Guy I Dumped Because of It

 Boring sex with your boyfriend is probably one of the worst things that could ever happen to you, especially if you’re in a long-term relationship. I had been with my boyfriend for a few months when we started having sex. We were both virgins, so it was really new to us. It was all really exciting at first, but then it started to get really boring. The problem is that he didn't want to do anything different or kinky or adventurous, which is something that I'm into. In fact, the only time we broke out of our routine was when he would take control and tell me what to do. But if I tried to take charge, he got mad and refused. That led to arguments where neither one of us would back down. Pretty soon, every time we were in bed together, it felt like an argument waiting to happen. 

One day we got into one of these fights while making dinner together and I realized that this wasn't worth fighting over anymore; this relationship wasn't worth fighting over anymore because it was too much work. we never talked about it enough before things just blew up. I think he knew how unhappy I was but couldn't figure out how to change it. He's still trying to figure that out for himself now, and I hope he does, because if not then sex will become even more boring. I don't know why he can't find someone who is open to trying new things, though. I found out from some friends that they're looking for people who are interested in role-playing. So maybe they could teach him some cool moves!

 The worst part about this breakup is that it might mean I won't be getting any good sex until after college! What am I going to do without good sex? Maybe once I graduate, I'll try dating again. Maybe this next guy will be more interesting than the last guy. Who knows?  Or maybe there's another way of looking at this experience: I may have gotten bored with sex but thanks to my ex, I learned what made it better in the long run!

Tips to avoid being bored with sex if you're in a long-term relationship.

I broke up with my boyfriend because he was too boring in bed. If you're having sex with your partner for a long time, sex may get boring if it becomes too repetitive. Here are some ways to not get bored with sex:

1. Change up positions:

Try new things like 69 or cowgirl. You can get really bored if you keep doing the same thing.  You have to be creative and mix it up every once in a while so that the sex is always exciting.

2. Use lots of different toys (sex toys!):

Toys come in all shapes and sizes these days. They might seem intimidating at first but they make sex more fun when they are incorporated into foreplay or during penetration. The best part about using sex toys is that they bring variety back into the bedroom. Bring them out of storage and try them out with your partner. Who knows? You could find a favorite toy that adds excitement back into the bedroom.

3. Talk dirty to each other in bed:

Get as descriptive as possible by talking about what you want to do to one another in bed. Doing this, will turn both partners on and build anticipation for what's going to happen next. Your partner will be curious about what you're thinking and feeling which makes sex way more interesting. When talking dirty, don't just tell your partner what you want to do; ask him/her what he/she wants to be done to him/her too.

4. Try some BDSM:

A lot of people associate BDSM with whips, chains, ropes, and sadism. In reality, there are many different types of bondage such as being tied up on the bed or being blindfolded. There are also different degrees of pain from light spanking to inflicting cuts with whips. Just because someone says they're interested in BDSM doesn't mean they want to inflict pain on their partner. Some people prefer spanking or flogging instead of whipping because it creates less scarring. Be sure to talk about boundaries before engaging in any type of BDSM and never play without knowing how to stop safely.

5. Role-play:

Instead of being yourselves in bed, pretend to be somebody else. Pretend you're a high school student who has just had their first kiss with the quarterback of the football team or a high society girl who meets her lover for afternoon tea. This role-playing will break up the monotony and keep sex fresh and exciting.

6. Try new places outside of the bedroom:

One of the reasons why my boyfriend became boring was because we were always having sex in his room. Trying new places outside of the bedroom, like the bathroom, kitchen, and laundry room will add to the thrill. Have sex in unexpected places to keep things fresh.

7. Fantasize about someone else:

Sometimes a person can become bored because of the lack of novelty in the relationship. One way to spice up sex life is to fantasize about someone else. This could be a celebrity or porn star. Fantasizing about someone else will give you something to think about and it will help you become aroused. This will, in turn, make sex with your partner much more enjoyable.

Final thoughts

I think that, in order to prevent sex from getting boring, you need to try new things. And if your partner is not open to trying new things, it might be time for you to find a new one.